Book on Kindle: ‘Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men’

Lundy Bancroft’s groundbreaking book is now on Kindle for only $1.99. I’ve been wanting to read it and now’s my chance. If you or someone you know is (or may be) suffering in an abusive relationship, this book may help you to understand what is happening to you, that it’s not normal, that it’s not your fault, that you don’t deserve to be abused.

Danny Gokey - RISE

I love the song already, but after seeing this music video, I claim Rise as my new theme song. I was stuck for so long in a destructive marriage in which my husband psychologically manipulated and devalued me in subtle ways. Psychological and emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse, while being much harder to recognize and explain to others in order to get help. This video gives me hope, saying my Father wants to restore my glory and let me shine. I want to be a light of hope to others that may be in similar situations. And I hope to someday meet a godly man that understands how to value a woman and lift her up instead of putting her down and crushing her spirit.

Let it Go: A movie song begins to heal my broken heart

Over three years ago I sat with my family, my husband and 5 daughters, in the theater and wept through this song as we watched the movie Frozen. The song so perfectly expressed what my heart longed for. My soul had been bound up for so long. I had forgotten who I was. I hadn't expressed myself in art or song for years. I had allowed someone else to define and devalue me, and I didn't know I should do something about it. I had allowed a constant, subtle atmosphere of hostility from the partner (who should have been my best friend) to eat away at my soul for so long that it had become normal. The song, Let it Go, broke the ice in my heart and showed me that I had been trapped and longed for freedom. I began to do what I was meant to do again. And I realized I was valuable, and shouldn't accept bad treatment. I fought against it. I wasn't perfect in how I responded, but that's okay. Life is messy. I insisted that we get help, but it's impossible to make another person see what they don't want to see. Like Elsa, I ran. Then, my 'prince' showed his true colors and immediately discarded me, instead of pursuing me. Pretty much like little sister Anna's prince in the movie. Well, time will tell how the story goes on. For the first time in a long time, I have hope of a good life and a happy ending. Because another thing I'm learning is that I don't have to be perfect to be loved ("that perfect girl is gone!"). There will be someone that will love me for who I am, whether or not I do everything right or agree with everything he says. A person that is capable of loving a real person. I already have many friends that love me in spite of my imperfections, for which I am so grateful.

"And one thought crystalizes like an icy blast: I'm never going back! The past is in the past!"

Re-blog: A Holy Experience: Why Wait Till Marriage: What I Wish Someone Had Told Me

"When someone isn’t willing or ready for spiritual oneness, emotional oneness, legal oneness, financial oneness — why let them steal physical and soul oneness from you?"

In my case: what happens when your partner isn't ready for those deeper kinds of oneness, even after years of marriage? When you realize that and ask to get help, and then he throws you away rather than work to repair the damage? Maybe it turns out to be a blessing, because you are finally free. 

This blog post by A Holy Experience, Why Wait Till Marriage: What I Wish Someone Had Told Me, is meant to make people think about the holiness of our entire being, body, soul, and spirit, so they can make wise decisions in their relationships. I pray that each young person will realize that they, and all others, are precious and sacred and that all kinds of oneness are to be prepared for carefully and thoughtfully in the context of marriage between one man and one woman, as God ordained at the beginning. 

http://www.aholyexperience.com/2016/07/why-wait-till-marriage-what-i-wish-someone-had-told-me/